The Story of J

This is my diary.

These are my words, thoughts, feelings, sucesses, failures, desires and fears.

This is my life.

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Monday, July 16, 2007

Death of Dominant- Revisited

Remember him? The one who was marrying the vanilla girl?

They broke up not too long ago.

I shouldn't be happy, but I am.

He's not vanilla in any sense of the word. He never was. Not sure he ever will be.

Sunday, July 15, 2007

A Full Weekend

Sometimes you have a weekend where on sunday night you find yourself going "wow, I did all of that in 2 days?"

Saturday morning started like every other saturday this summer. I went to class and got out earlier than usual. I was on my way to the store when I gave A. yet another call with no answer. In a split second thought, I found myself on the highway making the hour long drive to his house. I made it there in record time and pulled up in front of his place, nervous that his car was there. I guess part of me thought I would just leave a note but I approached the door anyway. I knocked on the door and heard some rustling inside but the door didn't open. I knocked again and T. slipped out of the door, closing it behind her. I looked at her strangely and asked if they were mad at me and she said no and that they had just been off on their own worlds. I accompanied her to the grocery store and when we got back to their place she informed me that she couldn't let me in the house without expressed permission. I took that opportunity to excuse myself and get back home. I never saw A. It was an odd situation and I was quite ready to get home. I am ok now that I know they are not upset with me. I must admit, I had feared someone had come across this blog and talked to him. But then again, its my blog.

When I got home my momma's surprise birthday was just starting. It was really nice. I enjoyed the company. Sometimes I wonder how different things will be when I finish school and move away. I will miss events like this. Most of the people in my family are older so I want to spend as much time with them as I can. As the party settled down I headed to the store that I had started to go to originally and received a call from a Domme friend of mine. She was inviting me to a party that was only a matter of minutes from my house. I got home and changed my shirt and headed out the gathering. It was at a beautiful home. A very beautiful home. The gathering was for female Domme's and submissives. There were mostly male subs, one other female sub besides myself. They did an auction to see which Domme got which sub to play with for the night. I spent the night assisting where I could and watching. As I was watching a woman trample a man, she extended her hand and told me to get on top of him. My face must have been in a panic because she said for me to "breathe" in that same manner that G. does when I tense up during a flogging. It was an interesting experience. I asked the man a couple times if he was ok and he was in his own space. Oh allow me to interject something here, people really need to get off that whole thing about white men and small penises. I was amazed. Simply amazed. Ok back the story... It felt like I was walking around on a water bed. I am no small girl so I was freaking out that I might crush him. I guess I should have more faith when someone says its ok. I had a great time. They were an absolutely great group and very welcoming. I look forward to going again.

Today was a bit lazy. I did some store errands. I didn't get as much homework done as I would have liked to. I need to work on my time management skills. I was considering picking up more hours at my second job but I think once school is over, I will spend my time cleaning up my room and cleaning out old clothes and things. I feel the need to have a new start for the up coming school year. Black Beat is only a month away. I need to start getting myself together for that too. Gonna try to get in bed a little early tonight. Well before 1 am.

Friday, July 13, 2007

Exhaustion

So the unthinkable happened.

I lost everything on my hard drive. All my music, all my files, everything is now gone. I am starting all over. I am deeply upset about it but not as much as I feel I should be. I guess something inside of me figured getting upset would do nothing really. So I have just spent a few hours adding things back on here. I hate that I lose my book marks. That really sucks.

I have been obsessively calling and writing A. and his girl T. for the past couple of days with no response. I don't think I will try anymore. I am pondering going by the house but not sure about that. I hate being punished for something I don't even know if I did. I wonder if someone said I said something about him. Though I am having a hard time trying to think of what I could have said about him that I didn't say to him. I did speak to a couple people about the situation and one of them was my best friend. The other person has sworn that it was a conversation held in private between the 2 of us. So who knows. It bothers me though. The worst punishment is being ignored. It just conjures up previous thoughts of D and Aaron. I am starting to wonder if I am a bad person, if maybe thats why all these bad things occur to me. Who knows....

All I know is that right now I am exhausted and in desperate need for some sleep.

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

WTF

So A. isn't answering or returning my calls. He isn't reading my emails or replying. Nor is he replying to my texts. I'm getting too old for this shit. I asked what I did wrong because I seriously don't know. Maybe he finally let himself admit he was mad about the contract thing. Who knows. All I know is that the older I get, the more I think my best friend has the right idea. I need to start fucking chicks. Bitch ass men.

Monday, July 09, 2007

Guess who's coming to dinner

No seriously, guess...

Give up?

D. No, I didn't stutter. No I'm not making jokes. D. has decided to show up again in my life. I received an email from him last week, maybe on friday, saying that he missed me and was wanting to "pick things up again". I was so shocked when I looked at the email that I closed the window and opened my email again just to make sure that I was in the right damn account. But it was from him alright. I sent a reply and instantly his reply came back. We talked back and forth like this for a while, I avoiding his question about getting back together, until I had decided I had enough of the charade. I came out and asked him if he had found another woman and he said yes but it was after he had lost my number. Yeah, he lost my number and didn't have access to the internet. WTF ever. He said she wasn't in the lifestyle and that it was over. 6 fucking months, ladies and gentlemen. He did not call or write me in 6 months and I was supposed to just say "ok". He asked if I was serving anyone and I replied that I was interested in someone. Which is very true. But details need not be disclosed. In any case, I was outraged, hurt, saddened, and in disbelief. Why couldn't he have stayed gone? And now he has decided that he wants to come to Black Beat with us. Just great. But allow me to be truthful. I have missed him greatly. But not that much. Not enough to be stupid again. So I guess the best thing at this point is the let it ride. The truth of his intentions will come out sooner or later. They always do.